Mark it with a B

A friend asked me the other day what my biggest pet peeve was. I have a lot but at the time I could only think of when people come up and start talking to you like they know you and all you can do is just look at them and think "who are you?" Yeah, really annoying. But I think my biggest pet peeve now is people asking "now that you're married, when are you going to have kids?"

My mom had two kids by the time she was my age. Several of my friends got pregnant almost immediately after getting married. Several of our friends are pregnant right now. I never thought I'd be one to wait very long (not that we've been married very long) to have kids but now that that choice is before me, I think I want to wait just a little while longer. Let me get used to being married for a bit before we throw anything else into the mix!

I thought I was pregnant the other day. I hadn't been quite as diligent with my birth control as I should have been and then I was late. Panic set in! I must say, the thought that I was pregnant already was slightly exciting but more than anything scared the crap out of me! I'm sure I'd get used to the idea and be really happy when it happened if I was pregnant, but it turns out I'm not.
Yet.

So that's a relief for now. But who's business is it anyways? I know people are just curious and EVERYBODY asks that question but seriously, I find it a little tacky. What if I couldn't have kids? Hubby's sister and brother-in-law tried for nearly ten years to have a baby and finally adopted. I wonder how they felt every time somebody casually asked them when they were going to have kids. What if we didn't want any? I wonder how people would take it if I just started answering, "We're not."

It's like it's just this checklist you have to fulfill as quickly as possible. Go to college. Check. Graduate. Check. Get a job. Check. Get married. Check. Have kids. Check. Check. Buy a house. Check. Retire. Check. Die. Hmmm... is that really all there is? Personally, I've never been in any hurry with any of these things. I'll get to them when I get to them. I prefer to enjoy the journey along the way. And if I accomplish a few of these things along the way, great. Whatever is in the plan is fine with me. But I'm ok with a few little detours too.

So stop asking, ok? If I have news, I'll let YOU know.